I know my sister thinks she is happy with her new man, but I think the guy is a total jerk.
- He doesn’t let my sister hang out with friends and he barely lets her come see me.
My sister said he is just being protective, but I think he is being jealous and obsessive. Last week, the guy went berserk when he found out that my sister turned up the thermostat during the day. I guess they agreed to keep the heat set to 68, but my sister was cold so she turned up the heat to 70. James came home from work and saw the temperature on the thermostat and proceeded to have a mental breakdown. My sister called me crying because she said James yelled and screamed for an hour when he found the temp on 70. I told my sister that was a silly reason to yell and scream for an hour, but she dismissed the behavior and made an excuse for his bad anger problems. I know the temperature on the thermostat is no big deal, but this is just part of a pattern of behavior that is going to keep getting worse. The guy is a ticking time bomb ready to blow at any minute. I wish my mom would talk to my sister about the guy, but she doesn’t want to get involved. I don’t mind stepping over the boundaries, because I really think my sister is in trouble. She doesn’t recognize the warning signs of an abusive relationship, but I work with battered women all day. This guy is a textbook example of someone with anger issues waiting to boil over.